Princeton: where slut-shaming is still just “logic”

Tehila Wegner’s article from The Daily Princetonian,“When slut becomes the new normal”, is a personal take on the problem of slut-shaming, which is not exactly a new issue.

But comments on the article have been hilariously bad. So trollishly bad, I’ve decided to feed some of them as quickly and dismissively as I can.

Posted by “A Woman”:

1. Girl sleeps with lots of guys

2. Men discuss this fact

3. Men’s speech qualifies as verbal abuse?

Oy vey your PCness has clouded your logic. I don’t see men complaining about all the insults generally reserved distinctly for them – dick, jackass, sleeze, creeper, needs to grow a pair, etc. All of them are usually used in relation to their sexual conduct and are much more sexual than something like bitch. If you want to show men that women are equal, please just grow a pair yourself and stop complaining about name-calling. Acting like a whiny little girl hurts us all more than some girl being called a slut (and there’s a good chance she’s okay with the title as most girls, myself included, would just laugh it off)

Answer: Yes, you don’t see men complaining about all the words directed at them, except when you totally do. The key difference is, the terms these men are complaining about–”creep”, “nice guy”–are ones that relate to their (oh so unfortunate) lack of access/inability to do with women as they please. The terms that women object to– “slut”, “whore”– are ones that relate to denigrating their consensual choices, or in some cases, the non-consensual experiences that affect their bodies.

Posted by “pu”:

Tehila, so what would be your politically correct way of describing a girl who sleeps with a lot of guys?

Whether there exists a word describing guys is beside the point. Seriously, they cannot call her a slut? To you, how is her behavior to be dubbed?

Answer: The “politically correct” way of describing a girl who sleeps with a lot of guys is “sexually active.”

Also, can we please stop using the word “politically correct” to denote our derision of people’s attempts to check our privileges?

Edit: If I had to choose a derogatory term for a sexually promiscuous female, I’d personally prefer the term “strumpet” over “slut”. Less slut-shaming, more strumpet!

Posted by Explanation:

A Key that opens many locks is a master key.
A lock opened by mans [sic] keys is just a pitiful lock.

Answer: I’ve heard this one before, and every time I wonder why people assume my ladybits are some magical treasure box that needs to be locked up.

Better analogies:

If you have a pencil that can be sharpened by any sharpener, you have a normal pencil; if you have a sharpener that will only sharpen certain pencils, you have a shitty sharpener.

A man who can ride any horse is a cowboy; a horse anyone can ride is a good horse.

A man who’ll dance with anyone is fun at a party; A woman who’ll dance with anyone is fun at a party.

And for the record, if anyone cares to respond, please note my own comment in the Prince that my preferred gender-neutral insult is “asshole.” Although I sometimes accept “asshat,” which has also been used to describe me.

3 thoughts on “Princeton: where slut-shaming is still just “logic””

  1. While I agree the key/lock analogy is pretty gross and does sound like it’s all about anatomy, I think the point is more that men generally have to work a lot harder for sex, whereas all a girl really has to do is say ‘yes’. That doesn’t make slut-shaming okay; I’m just pointing out that there’s more to the “men are studs, women are sluts” double standard than it seems.

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